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I was reminded again recently, when you don’t know what to say; say nothing. Let quiet speak. We sat at a table and listened as a patient tearfully explained how hard things were for her, how her husband wasn’t listening, … Continue reading

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Hospice is not the only “H” word I know.  Hospital bed is the other offensive word.  My sweet, amiable 80 year old patient lashed out at me, “I don’t want a hospital bed, don’t talk about it ever again” in … Continue reading

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Lying awake and listening to the train whistle in the early morning hours makes me want to get ready for a trip.  It also reminds me of the messages people share as their lives ebb and they prepare for their final journey. … Continue reading

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I re-read something I had written years ago, after the death of my mother.  It was titled, “Not just the daughter”, and I remembered the first-hand experience I had, as a family member, of hospice persons presenting themselves as the expert, and myself … Continue reading

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We have a saying in hospice, “Leave your agenda at the door”. This is just a simple way of reminding each other to remember whose death it is that we are following, and who is in charge.  I often tell people, hospice … Continue reading

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