Author Archives: Amy Getter

About Amy Getter

MS, RN, CHPN

HELPLESS

I’ve had many moments of observing the steady slowing and final stopping of a heart beat.  I’ve had countless times to share a patient’s frightening sense of vulnerability as bodies cheat their owners and life becomes uncertain with death a … Continue reading

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Roy-boy

Seventeen years ago today, myself, my youngest sister, only brother, and our spouses buried my mother.  Two days ago, I revisited the moments of my mother’s death as my brother lay dying.  His intensive care hospital stay the week before … Continue reading

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THE WORST PATIENT/DIFFICULT FAMILY?

Nurses, not infrequently, have been labeled (very often by other nurses) as “the worst patients; the difficult family member”.  Here’s a couple reasons why: nurses invariably assume the role of caregiver in both their careers AND their lives.  They historically … Continue reading

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PANDEMICS MERELY HIGHLIGHT NURSING HOME PREDICAMENT

A wise saying: There is nothing new under the sun.  Suffering is our human condition; we all have some experience with it.  Though it seems of late there is just too much.  A recent visit to a nursing home reminded me … Continue reading

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“HE WHO CANNOT, TEACHES”

As I thought about who and what have been my greatest teachers in life, I considered the quote: He who can, does; He who cannot, teaches*.  Though this quote is considered disparaging to teachers, I like to think of it … Continue reading

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WHAT WE LEAVE BEHIND

Don’t call me morbid because I’ve spent the past few days preparing obituary examples.  I’ll be using these for a class of young people to demonstrate a bit of what “legacy” means: something left behind when you are gone.  This … Continue reading

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WHO ADVOCATES?

How many of us, as nurses, have had the experience of speaking to an “enflamed” family member, and practiced all our communication skills to bring calm and rational judgment into play?   Recently, in the midst of a friend’s pain … Continue reading

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NEVER GIVE UP

I am concerned about a new mantra afoot: that palliative care–unlike hospice care– is not “giving up” but is addressing improved symptom management and quality of life (QOL) for all patients with advanced disease.  I  am disappointed as I read … Continue reading

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WHO WILL PROVIDE THE CARE?

I finally read something, in the NY Times, about The Zen Hospice Guest Home* in San Francisco, which closed down last summer.  Though The Zen Home was known to many workers in end-of-life care, others may not consider this significant … Continue reading

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A FAREWELL IN 2018

As 2018 comes to a close, I am remembering a friend who died this year.  Over a period of many months, we had these wonderful talks that seemed a lot like Tuesdays with Morrie,* with moments of her insight shared … Continue reading

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