Category Archives: hospice story

THE WEDDING PLANNER

I imagine she looks like she is dying now…..no one other than family members are allowed in to see her these final days.  She was a friend a long time ago, and became more distant over the years, as she … Continue reading

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THE LOVE CALL

That unmistakable “AAAAAAAmmmyyyyyy” heard down the street from my childhood home was my mother’s voice.  None of my friends’ moms had an operatic singing voice that floated throughout the neighborhood calling the other children home for dinner.  Just mine.  We … Continue reading

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UNFINISHED BUSINESS

We marveled that he was still breathing, this shell of a person who had been dying for so, so long. His wife had told him-days ago- it was time to go, she loved him and would miss him, but she would be … Continue reading

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IN A MIND’S EYE

In past years, mental illness has been nearly as taboo to talk about as death, dying and the like.  How about a person with mental illness who is dying simultaneously?  Jane has had a hand full of DSM-IV labels tagged on her … Continue reading

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ON BEING CURIOUS

Someone once gave me a good piece of advice: remain curious. Never stop having an interest in someone’s story.  There are surprises when we least expect them! I recently met a woman, frail and insignificant seeming, living in a trailer, who had traveled the … Continue reading

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COUNTRY MOUSE AND CITY MOUSE

As I exited the car, I dodged a large “shoe magnet”, as we affectionately call the remains from dog walkers who don’t bring a baggy for their dogs in the morning.  Another nurse and I approached the entrance of a homely, flat-top stucco … Continue reading

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MIRROR MIRROR

My last visit with Ida and she grouches a little at Gerry while she tells me she definitely has good days and bad days. “Today is bad.”  This is rare: to hear a cross word exchanged.  Gerry has helped with all the daily chores; … Continue reading

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GLORIOUS FREEDOM

As another New Year approaches, I thought about a patient from last year on New Year’s Day, who had finally stopped drinking-many years too late-but still finding some resolution in his last few months of life. Bondage in the dictionary is defined … Continue reading

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SPACESHIPS

 Hal is one of the most positive people I have met.  I mention this as he is signing up for hospice and knowing that life is slipping through his fingers.  He tells me that he did NOT learn this from his mother.   She … Continue reading

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“IF I SHOULD DIE BEFORE I WAKE”

“If I should die before I wake….” A child’s prayer my little sister and I sometimes spoke together at bedtime, not totally aware of what we were saying, I think, or we would have kept our eyes open and not slept a … Continue reading

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