Category Archives: death bed vigil

UNFINISHED BUSINESS

We marveled that he was still breathing, this shell of a person who had been dying for so, so long. His wife had told him-days ago- it was time to go, she loved him and would miss him, but she would be … Continue reading

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LEAVING

Have you perhaps heard or even said the comment following the death of an elderly person, “They had a good, long life”?  Of course, the reverse of that is the death of a young person, and we feel as though death robbed … Continue reading

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CENTENNIAL WISDOM

A woman who is one hundred years old is oh, so slowly dying; we all sit at the bedside and feel as though we are holding our breath.  She is still breathing.  Her family and I are wondering how a person can stay alive … Continue reading

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THE FACE OF DYING

Marge lay dying in her bed while her daughter waited for the end.  Her face had slowly shrunken in over the last few days, looking thinner and paler and what could only be described as a shadow of her previously rosy … Continue reading

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REGRETS

Is it actually possible to live a life without regret? I like to think so: at least to have only minor, insignificant regret. I watched Sally dying slowly, with her daughter providing most of her care as her needs increased incrementally over many … Continue reading

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A MONSTER IN THE CLOSET

Mary and I sat quietly together, talking about her dying.  Light increases her headaches, so she lays in a dark room most of the day.  She is rather pragmatic, facing her death many years before she ever expected with frequent stark remarks … Continue reading

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NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTION

A man lay dying in his living room. His spouse of 30 years was the other sole occupant of an upstairs apartment.  She was exhausted and I asked about sharing the care giving with the young adult children that lived … Continue reading

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WHAT THE WORLD NEEDS NOW, IS LOVE…

At times, I am caught off guard by a word or a gesture.  Today, a group of numbers stunned me for a long moment.  I cradled Sara’s arm while I took her blood pressure, and saw the blue-black tattoo along … Continue reading

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A THIN PLACE

 In the Celtic tradition, a thin place is the meeting of something spiritual with our earthly time, a glimpse of the divine…Heaven and earth kiss each other.  Where two worlds intermingle, something happens; inexplicable, sacred and people describe a sense … Continue reading

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Second time around

Anyone who has been thru the demise of a marriage understands the bereavement process as you build your life again from the ashes of what could have, maybe would have been. It is a painful journey, fraught with lonely moments and times … Continue reading

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