Category Archives: family of the dying

FINDING FUN

Yes, I actually heard this, “Let’s put the fun back in funeral”.   WOW!  How does that look?  I thought of a few “fun” memories of my own.  A woman who was amazingly talented in theater, as she planned her memorial, wanted it … Continue reading

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TEA AND PIG’S FEET

Pig’s feet, I think to myself, while I accept the plate of aspic offered- one of the joys of home nursing: accepting hospitality graciously!  I have had tea, coffee, cookies, seaweed and many other morsels, but pig’s feet- this is a first!  Thank … Continue reading

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WOLVES AND WOUNDS

This past week, not far from where I live, someone in a fit of rage killed a number of people he didn’t even know.  An enraged daughter called her mother’s physician because the hospice nurse (me) wouldn’t make her mother comply with a specific … Continue reading

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REGRETS

Is it actually possible to live a life without regret? I like to think so: at least to have only minor, insignificant regret. I watched Sally dying slowly, with her daughter providing most of her care as her needs increased incrementally over many … Continue reading

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NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTION

A man lay dying in his living room. His spouse of 30 years was the other sole occupant of an upstairs apartment.  She was exhausted and I asked about sharing the care giving with the young adult children that lived … Continue reading

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MESSAGES

I have heard in many stories from friends and loved ones, about the reassuring messages sent  from those who have died to those of us left here with feelings of loss and grief that must be journeyed through.  They seem … Continue reading

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